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Grown Up Things Kids Should Know

13 Grown-Up Things Kids Should Know

Deb Hipp

If you’re like most of us, you probably had to learn plenty of life lessons — some of them the hard way — as you grew into adulthood. In fact, there’s a good chance you’re still learning new things as you go about life. But wouldn’t it have been helpful to have a list of tips for making life a little easier when you were young and breaking out on your own?

Chances are you’ve always tried to instruct your kids or grandchildren on important things they need to know in life. You may have already covered honesty, integrity and a good work ethic. However, there are also other everyday tips that can add up to smoother sailing as an adult.

Want to help your children or grandkids navigate their way into full-fledged adulthood and beyond? Double-check your own stockpile of life lessons against our list of 13 grown-up things kids these days should know.

Cook Basic Foods

Kids don’t need to become master chefs but knowing how to prepare simple meals is essential. For one thing, they’ll save money and get ahead financially. Plus, cooking is a basic survival skill. Kids should know how to make at least a few basic things, like:

  • Eggs
  • Pasta
  • Roasted vegetables
  • Salads

Start teaching your kids to cook with foods that are simple to prepare such as scrambled eggs, macaroni and cheese from a box or baked chicken, fish or pork chops. Then show them how to enhance cooking skills using YouTube cooking tutorials — or invite them into the kitchen for a hands-on demonstration.

Kids Should Know How to Cook Basic Foods

Never Show Up to a Dinner Party Empty-Handed

Want your kids to be treasured guests? Teach them to show up at a dinner party with something to contribute to the meal, like:

  • A bottle of wine
  • A hostess gift
  • A loaf of artisan bread
  • A seasonal pie or another dessert

Advise them to check with the host first if they’re bringing a side dish or dessert to avoid duplicate foods. All it takes to impress the host is a quick stop at the wine store or running into a grocery store or bakery on the way to the party.

Write Thank You Cards

Writing thank you cards has fallen out of fashion, with many people just shooting a quick email or text to thank someone — or worse yet, not saying thank you at all. Let your kids know it takes only a few minutes to pick out a card and send it to thank someone for walking their dog while they were sick or inviting them to a holiday dinner. Maybe even buy your kid a box of thank you cards and forever postage stamps so it’s even easier to show their gratitude.

Create a Budget and Stick to It

If you want your young adult just starting out to have an easier time managing money, show them how to create a budget. While you may be old school, scratching out income and expenses on actual paper, your kids are more likely to follow a budget if it’s on an app. Fortunately, there are many budgeting apps available, even linking to their bank account and offering budget suggestions based on spending habits and expenses. And the good news is, you can start kids on this good habit when they’re teens, or even pre-teens.

Have Emergency Savings

Do your kids a big favor by teaching them the importance of having emergency savings to cover expenses like car repairs, medical bills and other unexpected costs. The more they have in savings to cover emergencies, the less they’ll have to put on a credit card — or even worse, borrow from you. Setting an attainable first goal of $1,000 is a good start. Then show them how to add to that amount with deposits of a portion of each paycheck. They could also use an automated “roundup” app that rounds up every dollar spent, painlessly depositing the excess into a linked savings account.

Kids Should Know About Saving Money

Cheap Stuff Doesn’t Last

Your graduate may be used to saving money by purchasing cheap clothing and rickety furniture. But now it’s time to teach them the value of buying items based on quality and longevity. A well-crafted sofa won’t sag in the middle after six months. Good clothing won’t typically pill or fall apart after a couple of washes. And sacrificing along the way to save enough to buy a well-made version of something makes the purchase even sweeter.

Protect Your Credit

Many young adults don’t realize how important having a good credit score will be later in life. When they’re buying a car or a house, for instance, having excellent credit will typically mean better financing terms. Without good credit, your kids will likely have to resort to predatory lenders, have trouble finding a rental home and could even miss out on getting hired at a job.

The best way to protect credit is to pay the bills on time, of course. But it’s also important for them to monitor their credit score, along with any activity and accounts on their credit report. Steer those just starting out to AnnualCreditReport.com, where they can obtain one free copy of their credit report per year.

Get Renter’s Insurance

Your kids just setting out on their own are probably just getting started on making their apartment as homey as possible with semi-expensive furniture and pricey electronics. The last thing they need is to have to start over if the contents of their apartment are damaged in a fire or stolen during a break-in. Renter’s insurance can cover their hard-earned possessions, and it’s not expensive — especially compared to what they stand to lose. And don’t forget to mention asking their insurance agent about savings if they “bundle” renter’s insurance with their auto insurance.

Know How to Change a Flat Tire

Just because your kid has roadside assistance doesn’t mean a tire won’t go flat while they’re driving through a remote stretch of woods or on a lonely highway. Teach your kids how to change a flat tire now, before an emergency. If you haven’t yet mastered the skill, you can school yourself, too. There are instructional videos available online, or you can visit with a trusted friend or mechanic who can demonstrate the process.

Kids Should Know How to Change a Tire

Maintenance Now Saves on Repairs Later

If there’s one lesson we’ve all learned the hard way, it’s that spending money on maintenance to keep things running right — or in some cases, running at all — is money well spent. Sit down with your kids and go over the costs of how much a new car engine costs to emphasize why they should take the vehicle for regular oil changes and other maintenance. Explain why it’s worth spending $100 for a furnace check-up to prevent spending $600 if the appliance breaks down on a bitterly cold night.

Try Not to Burn Bridges

The teen or young adult in your life may feel justified telling off their mean boss with a scathing email on their last day. But remind them that the manager they offend today could one day badmouth them to a potential employer down the road. The friend they impulsively dump during an argument might have been a great help in a challenging situation ahead. Teach your kids it’s better to take a break — maybe hold off a few hours on that angry text or email they want to send — until cooler heads prevail than to burn bridges they may need later.

Shop Smart to Save Money

You want your kids to shop smart for large purchases or even a house one day, right? Get them into the habit of looking for savings with their everyday purchases. Grocery and retail store circulars and online sales can help them pay less for items like:

  • Clothing
  • Groceries
  • Apartment furnishings
  • Decorations

It might take a couple of days to receive the product in the mail or to find the right deal, but they’ll learn that doing the work and having patience pays off.

Start Saving for Retirement Now

When retirement is 40+ years away, someone in their early 20s may not feel an urgent need to save for the distant future. However, you can help kids entering the workforce get a jump on a comfortable retirement by teaching them to start making contributions to their employer’s 401(k) or a similar retirement plan now, especially if their employer matches a portion. Otherwise, they’ll be leaving free money on the table. You can even show them on a simple retirement calculator how investing early can add up to hundreds of thousands of dollars over time.


Paying it Forward

Now that you’ve taken a look at our list of things grown-up kids should know, do you have some life tips of your own for young adults?

Share your own hard-won expertise on how to make life easier and more financially stable in the comments.

77 Responses to "13 Grown-Up Things Kids Should Know"
    • Thomas Edwin Koepke DVM (retired and 75) | April 10, 2021 at 8:08 pm

      Be Yourself. Peer pressure can make you regret discussions. Peer pressure can make you disrespect individuals different than yourself. Learn to accept others for the differences and shared interests. I proud of yourself, willing to learn, and be kind to everyone.

      • Extra Mile Staff | April 11, 2021 at 11:26 am

        Excellent addition!

      • Robin Drake | May 8, 2021 at 11:50 am

        Take care of your health-always. Eat well, exercise, get regular check ups-especially if symptoms start that linger. The conspiracy theory by the government is non existent and the CDC and WHO are there to keep people alive. Their recommendations are just that but do your own research if you have questions-or ask them! Your health is determined by genetics but also by your close monitoring and constant review.

    • RACHEL B JONES | April 24, 2021 at 12:00 pm

      BE KIND

    • Ang Kazak | May 6, 2021 at 9:11 am

      No matter where you live, whether you rent or own – always know who to call for emergencies – fire, police, ambulance. Know who provides your utilities and where to call – gas, electric, water, sewer, garbage.

      • Sandra D. | May 6, 2021 at 10:12 pm

        Be polite.
        Manners never go out of style.
        Try to find ways to learn what it must be like to walk in the other persons shoes. In the end, you’ll find ways to cooperate and learn to meet in the middle. You don’t always have to be right.

    • Sally Brown | May 6, 2021 at 9:28 am

      1. The most important things in life are not things. 2. Live within your means. Adjust your spending to meet your circumstances. Think about what you need more than what you want.

    • Michael.and.Susie Way | May 6, 2021 at 9:29 am

      You are always loved, no matter what, by Love.

    • Denise Winters | May 6, 2021 at 9:41 am

      Learn to not be a really messy keeper of everything. Don’t let things pile up in your living spaces. It will just get worse, and it clutters your mind. Develop a good habit of uncluttering, especially in these times. Clutter in your life , just keeps your mind scattered and the people around you.

    • Keith Vandenbergh | May 6, 2021 at 9:42 am

      Good list. I would consider:

      1. Not only to save but HOW to save it. Different/easy/safe-ish ways to grow your money and stay ahead of inflation.

      2. How to prepare for people coming over. It’s different than when they were in college.

    • Mary S. | May 6, 2021 at 9:44 am

      Have a sense of humor and be considerate. Help others either by volunterring at a non-profit organization,hospital or through a church.

    • Jim Lewis | May 6, 2021 at 9:45 am

      Listen to both sides of an issue before making a judgment or taking sides. Then you can make an informed decision.

    • Merry Quy | May 6, 2021 at 9:49 am

      The above 13 things kids should know are a great way for kids to learn things from others’ point of view. This may be proof to kids that what their parent’s are talking about is not “weird” and if others think it is important to teach their kids this your own kids may agree.
      It’s a tough world out there, now. I’m glad my kids are grown and settled but I do worry about my grand and great grandkids being successful adults. Most anything I can do to help them with that, I’m in for. Thank you.

    • Azalee Turner | May 6, 2021 at 9:55 am

      If you believe that human beings have mind, body, and spirit, try to take the same care for each part of you. Neglecting any one leaves room for an unhealthy life. Living life to the fullest means caring for all that is you.

    • Betty Knapp | May 6, 2021 at 9:57 am

      Don’t expect other people to be perfect until you are.

      • Pat | May 7, 2021 at 11:11 am

        Great lesson here. Also don’t expect people to work as hard as you, or use only your methods.

      • Carol Middlekauff | May 8, 2021 at 10:50 am

        And while you work to be better and better, you won’t be perfect yourself, and definitely can’t expect perfection in others.

      • Carol Middlekauff | May 8, 2021 at 10:54 am

        P.S. And there’s room in this world for lots of wonderful people. Remember to celebrate and appreciate the wonderfulness in everyone, as well as your own wonderfulness. That way, you won’t feel the need to pull anyone else down – but keep looking for their wonderful.

    • Alan Murdoch | May 6, 2021 at 9:57 am

      72 year old retired teacher. Social media didn’t exist for more than half my life. Today, a misstep on social media lasts and can affect your life forever. WISE use of social media is as basic as a balanced diet as it can affect every aspect of one’s future.

    • Richard Johnson | May 6, 2021 at 10:12 am

      Be trustworthy and dependable. Promptly follow through with commitments made.

    • Annette R | May 6, 2021 at 10:17 am

      Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

      I am now 77 and I still try to learn something new every day. NEVER QUIT LEARNING!

      • John Miller | May 7, 2021 at 11:15 am

        Ahhh…the Golden Rule! Without doubt this should be the most important. Think of how nice it would be if this were practiced every day from Washington DC down to our neighborhood

    • Lawrence Bosick | May 6, 2021 at 10:17 am

      No matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try always remember that life is not fair. So set a goal and persevere towards accomplishing that goal. And always keep your faith.

    • Margie Fedorchak | May 6, 2021 at 10:17 am

      I agree with everything except learning to change a tire. It’s impossible for me to do on my own and that is why I have AAA. I call them and it’s done for me! I will encourage my granddaughter to do the same.

      • Max W. | May 7, 2021 at 2:15 am

        It does not say you have to change the tire, it says you should know how. Would you not like to have the skill if you ever are unable to get AAA and NEED to drive somewhere?

      • Ken Geelhaar | May 11, 2021 at 6:40 am

        Margie I recently helped my daughter rotate her tires in the driveway. The wheel lugs were so tight she had to stand on the lug wrench while I pulled. I then taught her proper wheel lug torque. I am confident she won’t be a victim on the road now. Now today most new cars sold no longer have a spare tire. The manufacturers do this to make the car lighter and get better gas mileage. A can of fix a flat in the trunk is all you need but having AAA is good advice.

      • Jane Miller | May 12, 2021 at 8:39 am

        Triple A is relatively expensive compared to the road service available with most car insurance policies. Yes, their service is very widely extensive. But for most roadside problems, such as tire changes, jumps, towing, etc., check w/your insurer. For example, I pay $8/vehicle with my AARP Hartford insurance. It does have a limit of $75 per occurrence, but $8 is 85 percent less then the $55 I’ve seen advertised for AAA. And it’s come in very handy. I’ve never been anywhere that I couldn’t get service, and I live in a very rural area.

      • Ken Geelhaar | May 12, 2021 at 3:17 pm

        Jane have your ever read the story about Alice Ramsey? In 1909 she was the first woman to drive across the country. She had to fix 11 flat tires. She dismounted the tire, pulled out the tube and patched it, then reinstalled it. Without Help From Men! She also cleaned the spark plugs in her Maxwell car during the trip. She had to crank start the car. People can break arms if they didn’t do that right. She was harshly ridiculed by the newspapers. They said it was not a womans place to drive an automobile. I am sure she would have loved to have any help from insurance or AAA at the time.

    • Susan Hush Harris | May 6, 2021 at 10:34 am

      Tell your family members you truly love them, and why.

      • KAREN DIXON | May 7, 2021 at 2:45 pm

        Don’t wait until it’s too late.

    • Robert Iwanowski | May 6, 2021 at 10:36 am

      Don’t litter. The world is NOT your trash can. Just look at the side of the road and you’ll see too many just toss their trash out the window. I don’t get the mentality of it all.
      Recycle all you can and DO IT PROPERLY. 1 person throwing in food covered recyclables ruins the entire batch. Check online with your local recycler and they will give you the dos and don’ts. Save the planet for those coming after us.
      If everyone does their part…….a much better place the world will be.
      Parents……teach your kids early to do the right thing.
      Remember………….Your kids will follow your example….
      Be a GREAT example.

      • Lynn Andrews | May 7, 2021 at 8:39 am

        I agree – don’t litter!!! And teach your children and their friends to use trash cans. I live in northern CT and the garbage on streets and roadside are atrocious. I get a large trash bag/gloves and pick up where I can but on the interstate it’s not safe. It feels like nobody cares.

    • Dawn Ratliff | May 6, 2021 at 10:39 am

      If you find yourself getting into financial trouble, have bills more than your income, reach out to a trusted family member to discuss your situation and help find a path to resolving your situation and getting back on track to manage your finances. Use credit sparingly. Yes, getting a credit card will help build a good credit rating, but don’t charge anything you can’t pay for right away. The interest on a credit card is substantial – why should you give away your hard-earned money to anyone else? Banking apps make it easy to transfer money to pay your bills, including anything you purchase on a credit card.

      • Jane Miller | May 12, 2021 at 8:41 am

        My mother advised me, when getting a credit card as I graduated college, to never put anything on a credit card that I didn’t know where I’d get the money from to pay for it.

    • Shirley Bonk | May 6, 2021 at 10:59 am

      When making a decision, there is always the right thing and a wrong thing to do. Always choose to do the right thing regardless of the consequences.

    • Sue Kennedy | May 6, 2021 at 11:00 am

      The first advice I can share is called The Golden Rule by my generation. Treat others in the manner you wish to be treated.

      The second is to Do Your Part to leave a place (think the entire earth) better than you found it.

      The third advice is that we all see reality from our own perspective. Consider differences as treasures to embrace as they will help us grow and expand our hearts & minds.

      The last advice is to know that no matter what, this world is unfolding as it should & you are supposed to be here in this moment. Do everything to embrace your moment (interpreted from “Desiderata”…Max Ehrmann

    • George Hoyle | May 6, 2021 at 11:09 am

      Always take the high road. The traffic is lighter.

    • Annette | May 6, 2021 at 11:11 am

      Be silly, be honest, be kind

    • CORINNE MCGRAIL | May 6, 2021 at 11:37 am

      Be generous. If you don’t have an extra dollar offer your help, your time.

    • evans winter | May 6, 2021 at 11:51 am

      When at parades or other such events where there were police(men in those days) standing around , I, with my small child with me, engaged one of them in small talk for long enough for tjhe child to perceieve that the officer was not a threat then pointed out to the child that this man or others similarly attired is a friend, to be called upon if help is needed.

    • Terry | May 6, 2021 at 12:45 pm

      There is no such thing as a FREE LUNCH…you pay for it SOMEWHERE down the line.

    • Betti Allen | May 6, 2021 at 1:03 pm

      Teach them how to be responsible, to be punctual and to be a diligent, good worker.
      Teach them “cell phone” etiquette; i.e., no personal calls at work, interact with the people you are with, not glue yourself to your cell phone, be courteous if you have to take a call when in a social situation and make it short! Doesn’t matter what others do, you do what’s right!

    • JOHN F CIESLA | May 6, 2021 at 1:52 pm

      The advise regarding “Learn how to change a Tire” has always been good, and is still valid for many vehicles, however in today’s age….Many people own large SUV’s or Pickup trucks, and to expect most people to simply jack one of these monsters off the ground and then lift the tire and rim off the axle, and lift the spare to install, is wish full thinking. Far beyond the strength of the average person. Also even for smaller vehicles the tools supplied by the manufacturer are often useless, and will do more damage than good. Most supplied jacks are junk (and are actually dangerous to be near), and the wrenches are so poorly made they often round off the hex nuts, and now they can’t be removed, leaving you helpless. You need proper tools!

    • Margaret | May 6, 2021 at 2:42 pm

      Know that there is a higher power (Jesus or whatever religion you abide by or not) Follow the ten commandments and you will always do the right thing in situations.

    • Stuart Ford | May 6, 2021 at 3:44 pm

      These are All very good comments. I would add about helping to develop credit, is that it’s OK to use a credit card. But to always pay it off every month…. Always. Good credit results, and no high interest paid.

    • Arthur L Martin | May 6, 2021 at 3:51 pm

      Great List! Have your son or daughter buy a Whole-Life Insurance policy as soon after graduation from High School as possible in the $100,000 to $500,000 range as they will never get it any cheaper as they age. Also talk to them at this age about how they can protect themselves and their belongings through Insurance, investments, and savings. Plan now or pay later.

    • Betty Jean Waldrop | May 6, 2021 at 4:03 pm

      I appreciate all the good advice in the 13 Things Your Kids Should Know, as well as all the great ideas sent in by folks replying to your article. Keep up the great work!

    • Barbara Cockrum | May 6, 2021 at 4:12 pm

      Subtle meanness is never acceptable! Be kind!

    • Pamela | May 6, 2021 at 5:44 pm

      1.) Take care of what you have whether those are “things” or yourself. Then you can use your resources to go forward and invest in yourself in new ways and have some left over to share with others. 2.) No matter what situation you are in anytime in your life, just remember to “do what is right.”

    • Claudia | May 6, 2021 at 7:45 pm

      Don’t be a bully. Bullying takes many forms. It is not a tactic to use in your personal life, your community, or the workplace. Get help if you need to change.

    • Ifé Carruthers | May 6, 2021 at 10:34 pm

      I loved the list. I would add the following:
      1. Don’t wait for retirement to travel. If you want to see the world, like preparing for retirement, you must start early.
      3. Take care of your teeth while you are young, eating heathy and practicing good oral hygiene. That will help you avoid bridges, dentures, implants, and save you many dollars.

    • Dwight Eugene Hayes | May 6, 2021 at 10:56 pm

      I was a correctional officer for twenty-five years.
      I tried to live by treating those incarcerated like I would want to be treated if our roles were reversed. When that didn’t work, I treated them as was necessary.
      It really came back to me on my last day to work inside a prison when my left hip came apart. Of the three hundred plus inmates not one tried to cause me any discomfort while I preformed my duties for what was my last time on a double shift. I went home with a uniform wet from the tears the pain caused on my best day ever. (My doctor retired me early.)

      • Pamela | May 7, 2021 at 9:50 pm

        Thank you, Dwight, for your compassionate service. My husband was a law enforcement officer and for many years following his retirement he had people stop him on the street to thank him for how he treated them during their encounter. My husband believed in enforcing the spirit of the law. He always tried to treat individuals in a way that helped them and their families instead of applying a heavy hand unless it was necessary. God bless you and I wish you a happy, healthy retirement!

    • Carolyn J G | May 6, 2021 at 10:57 pm

      Learn to volunteer your time at least by high school— non payment for work can be also be gratifying!

    • Andre Grieco | May 7, 2021 at 1:11 am

      Here are habits that help me:

      Having a good attitude is paramount to experiencing success and contentment. Do NOT let anyone step on your attitude.

      Ban all negative thoughts. Your brain tries to make real things you think about. So focus on what you want–never on what you don’t want. Your brain doesn’t know the difference, so it works with the information it is given. So, always feed it positive thoughts.

      • Diane S Parsons | May 10, 2021 at 11:07 am

        I’m wanting to learn more about how the brain does this and have been hearing bits and pieces here and there. Where did you learn this? And thank you for that comment.

    • BARRY SIEGEL | May 7, 2021 at 5:11 am

      I wrote a book available at AMAZON.com, 101-Investment and Money Use Tips to avoid losing or wasting your Money. I listed as tips many of the tips that your article presents. Your tips are as wise and fiscally prudent as what I had written. However, yours are shown in what could be a great consumer lesson in one-hour taught to adolescents in a classroom as wells as to many adults, many of whom sadly are fiscally profligate.

      The one tip that really is important is maintenance of one’s possessions that includes clothing. I have had auto mechanics tell me that some people do not change the auto’s oil regularly and avoid other maintenance until after something goes awry. Maintaining furniture, electronic devices, and appliances as well as treating these devices with care also adds life to them and reduces repair potential, which saves money.

      These 13-fiscal tips should be copied, saved, and transmitted to other people; this is how valuable what you presented is.

      Here are two additional tips that I offered in my book as follows:

      The cost and consequential loans to finance a residence and an auto are most person’s biggest debt obligations and consume, therefore, much of a person’s paycheck. Hence, if you have an auto debt-free and a home mortgage free, you are FREE! If there is a job loss or an economic downturn that can affect one’s income, you will not be wondering how to keep a roof over your head or have transportation. Moreover, even in good economic times, if an employer fires you, you can laugh on the way out the door because your do not need income for auto and fort mortgage payments. If necessary to cover basic living expenses, you could obtain a minimum wage job! Nonetheless, you still would have a car and a place to live dependent upon nobody doing you a favor to let you keep a job or remain as a client if self-employed.

      Learn how to cook, as your tip asserts also. Too many people order out, go to restaurants, and even buy prepared food at the grocery rather than take the time to prepare meals. Going to a restaurant is OK may once or twice weekly, but to a moderately priced restaurant. Additionally, with all the modern kitchen conveniences, broiling a piece of meat or fish; making a tuna sandwich or grilled cheese sandwich; and grilling some burgers, hot dogs, or vegan delights are not difficult and much less expensive than pay for the same at a restaurant or grocery prepared offerings. I surmise that eating most meals at home or prepared at home taken to place such as a job could save a person/family at least 50%-60% for food bills. Less money spent for food that becomes a savings equals less dependence upon a paycheck. One learns to survive very comfortably and have greater personal independence when one’s money can go farther for life’s basics: food, shelter, and transportation!!

      Best wishes to all in our never ending search to make better use of our resources to live comfortably and with as little stress practicable.

      • Jane Miller | May 9, 2021 at 9:55 am

        I dug myself out of the car payment money pit years ago. Before that, when I went to trade a car in, it usually brought just enough to pay off what I still owed on the loan. So that left me starting at $0 equity EVERY time. Then I started keeping autos longer, driving them long past when the loan was paid off. While I was driving them with no remaining loan, I made the car payments to myself. After all, I was used to having them in my budget. That way, when I actually NEEDED a new vehicle, I had a sizable down payment. After a few times of doing this, I eventually had enough saved to buy the new vehicle without incurring any debt. I still adhere to this method even in retirement. Sure has saved me a bundle on interest and new cars. I also consider and buy used cars if I can find something suitable.

    • Marko | May 7, 2021 at 7:07 am

      I think another additional item would be “Be aware of the appropriate dress for an adult invitation or funeral.”
      Too often I see today’s young adults going to dinner with grandparents dressed for the beach or a frat party.

    • deborah barnes | May 7, 2021 at 9:34 am

      Question everything, do the research formally and informally, trust your “knowing” set your path with love courage and dig into the past to understand the present. Look at the alternative visions; hear the voices that history attempted to gag. Be wary of “growth progress story, ask at which point growth is contrary to health. Artificial Intelligence is not intelligent, it is a collection of past data, collected and utilized to predict and create the future. In other words the thinking that made the mess of climate, polluted our waters, that is cutting down our oxygenators, MORE AKA that which created the current mess is being use to project the future, is that wise? Be focused on trying to understand the ancestor’s stories, to appreciate and forgive at once. In a connected reality there are patterns and unique rivulets that are important to the whole of a greater truth. Set your own goals and missions and listen for the wisdom that comes from as many sources as does the attempt to hold onto the thinking and story that created the present, its glory and horror. Remember to do the happy dance when you accomplish that which you tried to do. Remember that failure is just a word and mistakes are there for a reason. Be kind, be open to ideas and listen to others, be attentive to life as it unfolds. You are here for a reason and purpose, find your gifts, and work on that which does not come easy but intrigues you! It is your life and it is a thing of wonder despite all the knowledge we can carry the next question will open up more! Cheers! The New Story is rising, even as the old one digs in its heels. Let’s do this, let’s create the New Story where helping each other, help each other expands the potential of each so then the potential of the whole opens new possibilities. In evolutional terms –let’s leap!

    • Dave | May 7, 2021 at 10:27 am

      Being a parent of grown children in todays busy world something seems to have been lost from my generation.
      The simple picking up of the telephone once a week to check on your parents, their lives have changed since they have become empty nesters, they do not have you around if something were to health wise happen to them and they miss you more than you’ll ever know.
      This was common practice for my generation and kept families in contact. I know my mother appreciated it as she was the glue that held the family together, now that she is gone I wish I would have called even more, now there are no answers to questions I have that I didn’t think of at the time.
      Grown children please take the time to talk to your parents while you can, time is short in their world and once they are gone so are answers and support they offer:)

    • Dave | May 7, 2021 at 10:36 am

      Again I cannot stress enough to grown children, please stay in contact via telephone weekly, we appreciate it more than you’ll ever know, you are our life, we live to see your happy days also not so happy, we offer advise and help answer questions no-one else can and we miss you more than you’ll ever know, don’t wait our time is short, your questions are many:)

    • Cathy Quagliata | May 7, 2021 at 11:50 am

      Always close the light when you leave the room.
      Communicate with family, relatives and close friends. It is long life benefit to have people close to you.

    • George Gardelis | May 7, 2021 at 2:03 pm

      Don’t be begging to be loved – Don’t be meek to delete – Be Yourself – It does wonders for your health – George 1:1

    • Roger Becker | May 8, 2021 at 10:02 am

      If you want friends you must be friendly.
      Concur with: Don’t burn bridges. A harsh response to a transient disagreement may come back to bite you.

    • Norma | May 8, 2021 at 10:22 am

      Develop your critical thinking skills. Never feel you have to accept something because someone tells you it is so, especially when it doesn’t seem right to you. Never be afraid to do your own research to confirm the facts. It can save you a lifetime of grief.
      As little children never stop asking “why”, nor should you as you grow older. Remember if something seems too good to be true, it may not be true.

    • Mary C Mueller | May 8, 2021 at 10:25 am

      Respect must be earned It is not given just because you exist.

      Also, it is hard to love a lazy slob. Make sure that title can never be applied to you.

    • Susan Frost | May 8, 2021 at 10:35 am

      If I knew then what I know now, I would not have done that. What is your that?

    • Tom Doonan | May 8, 2021 at 10:52 am

      Thank God for what you have

      Tom Doonan

    • Lynn Jasper | May 8, 2021 at 11:05 am

      Teach children to say know to themselves first before they ask about purchasing items and just plain spending money. Teach them to stop and think and ask themselves some questions. They need to ask themselves do they really need or even want the item they are thinking of buying. Would they rather save the money or use it for some other purpose. Think about their own up coming needs, such as college, housing, clothing, car insurance, a car. Do not automatically believe all the claims on a item they are currently wishing to buy. Will they really want this in a year.
      It is okay to occasionally reward ones self. But you most likely will need a savings to do that. Learn to say know to yourself now, so you can make a well thought out purchase latter, that you will be happier with. Protect yourself by savings and thought.

    • Lynn Jasper | May 8, 2021 at 11:13 am

      One more big thing, also save some money to give to charity. It does not have to be a lot, but take 10% of you money and set it aside to give to a worthy charity. This will provide you with the joy of contributing to serious needs of those less fortunate, knowing you have done what you can gives you a good feeling and self-confidence of being responsible, caring and helping to solve problems in society you live in. The reward you receive in how you feel about stepping up and doing for those who need a hand makes you stronger and more confident about yourself as well as the satisfaction knowing you are one of the problem solvers and stand on your own.

    • Jean | May 8, 2021 at 12:04 pm

      All the given advice is excellent but I’d like to emphasize how important giving oneself a few minutes each day specifically for mindful meditation, gratitude journaling or just plain deep breathing. It balances out all ” to do” stuff and reminds us ” to Be” because we are human “Beings”? Thanks so much for all you do and are!

    • G L Tirebiter | May 8, 2021 at 2:16 pm

      Stupidity is fleeting, the Internet is eternal. Think carefully before you make a comment you’ll later regret.

    • REBERTA | May 9, 2021 at 9:27 am

      Remember to say “please” and “thank you” to people younger and older than you are.

    • Jane Miller | May 9, 2021 at 9:58 am

      Thank you notes: so rare these days, makes them even more worth it. When my older sister was in college, the first time she went home with a boyfriend to stay at his parents’ in the city, she mailed a thank you note. She was in like Flynn after that. She told me that to make a big impression any time I visited my friends at their parents’ homes, send a written thank you. I’ve followed that advice for decades now, and it always works like a charm. Plus it also expresses my heartfelt thanks for their hospitality.

    • Judith Christley | May 10, 2021 at 6:35 am

      Don’t forget to give back. If nothing else it is proof to yourself that you trust in your own future. If you don’t have charity in your own heart, nothing else matters and your character.

    • VEENA MEHTA | June 12, 2021 at 4:54 pm

      This was very informative, timely advise for all the teens/young adults (for that matter to all) striking out on their own.

      I have a suggestion on gift giving. Yes, all the young ones love good stuff, new stuff designer clothes, etc., etc. But, they don’t last and it fades away.

      These past few years, I have started giving a valued stock or two to invest as a gift. to my son . Not only they can learn about investing, saving but this investment will grow in their portfolio over the period of 20-30-40 years. Imagine $50-$100 stock today grown to $20k-$40k or more when they are ready to retire

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