How Your Relationship Status Can Affect Your Insurance

Michele Lerner

Your particular insurance needs depend, in part, on who you live with and your relationship to them. As such, most changes to your relationship status will warrant an insurance policy update.

If you don’t update that information, your insurance company may have incomplete information about who’s sharing your home or your car, and you may have too little or too much coverage.

Single or Single with Roommates 

Whether you rent or own, whether you live alone or with roommates, you should have an insurance policy to cover your home and possessions. Your guests, your roommates, and their guests can all cause damage to your home (and so can you, for that matter).

If you’re renting, the person on the lease typically purchases the renters insurance. If both your names are on the lease, you’ll need separate renters insurance policies; most insurance companies will not write one policy for unrelated friends.

If one name isn’t on the lease and that person doesn’t have a policy, the possessions they keep in the home are likely still covered by the policyholder’s insurer.

However, any possessions that are lost, destroyed or damaged outside of the home may not be covered automatically. If this person’s phone is stolen while they’re out, for instance, it wouldn’t be covered.

To have the off-premises possessions covered, the policy-holder would have to purchase an insurance endorsement to provide their roommate with off-premises possessions and liability protection.

If one person has bought a place and the other roommates are paying rent to them–think Blanche and the other Golden Girls–the owner should get a homeowners insurance or condo insurance policy and the renters should each get a renters insurance policy.

If you’re living with roommates, your insurance company may want you to add your roommates to your car insurance policy, just in case they drive your car and end up in a crash. Be sure to check with your insurance company. The last thing you want is for your roommate to cause damage to your car that your insurance won’t cover.


Nearly every state requires insurance companies to recognize and provide coverage to domestic partnerships, but whether you need to register officially as domestic partners depends on the insurance company. Each insurance company might require something different to validate the domestic partnership.

If you or your significant other are not domestic partners, you may need to purchase separate insurance policies, the way roommates would.

Sharing your home with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you are sharing your car with that person; but if you are, you’ll need to update your car insurance.

You should discuss your driving record with your partner. If one of you has a bad driving record, their premiums could be higher. For this reason, the two of you may want to keep your auto insurance policies separate. On the other hand, you might be eligible for a discount if you combine your car insurance policies into one.


The moment you get married, your spouse is covered by your homeowners, renters or condo insurance, so long as your spouse lives in the household with you (but you should still inform your insurance carrier of the good news).

Make sure that you reevaluate your coverage to determine whether it’s enough to protect any additional possessions. If, for example, the engagement ring and wedding bands are worth more than what your valuable items insurance will cover, then consider adding extra coverage for those items.

If you are married but separated—meaning that you no longer share the household with your spouse, have officially moved out and are living somewhere else—you are no longer considered an insured on the policy.

If you still have possessions at the home you shared with your spouse, but there’s a fire in the house that causes damage to your possessions, your spouse will receive the reimbursement check for those damages, not you. So, if you move out, take your belongings with you.

Once you get married, you and your spouse need to be on the same car insurance policy, says Teresa Wharton, an account executive for CBIZ Insurance Services in Cumberland, Maryland. This way, if one of you drives the other’s car and gets into an accident, you’ll still be covered. And, you’ll likely receive a discount for combining policies.

If your spouse has a terrible driving record, this could dramatically increase your insurance premiums. In some states, such as California, you could exclude your spouse from your car insurance by adding a named driver exclusion endorsement to your policy.

The excluded driver wouldn’t be allowed to drive your car. If they did, and then needed to make an insurance claim, your insurance company wouldn’t be required to pay the claim.

Some states, such as New York and Virginia, however, don’t allow you to exclude anyone in a household from your policy.


If you and your spouse are divorcing and one spouse is keeping the home, the other will need to sign a quit claim so that the deed to the home can be reissued in the sole owner’s name.

“The homeowners insurance policy is tied to the deed to the property, so if both spouses’ names are on the deed, you can’t just remove them from the insurance policy,” explains Wharton.

You’ll also need to get a new title issued for your car if both spouses were previously listed as owners. “If there’s an accident, the other driver will go after the car owner, not the driver,” warns Wharton.

If you and your spouse cannot agree on a resolution for your car, you may need to negotiate this through the divorce court. “You can’t just remove your ex from the insurance policy, either, because most insurance companies want a signature from each person to acknowledge the change,” adds Wharton

Note that your car insurance discounts may disappear, particularly those tied to multiple drivers and vehicles.

Umbrella Insurance

Umbrella insurance policies increase liability coverage for both your homeowners and car insurance policies. As with your other policies, you should review your umbrella insurance policy during any life change. If you combine households, you may need more coverage, but after a divorce, you may need less coverage.

Whenever you go through life-altering events, especially when it pertains to your living arrangement or marital status, it’s a good time to reassess your insurance coverage.

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Disclaimer: This article is intended to be informational in nature, may not be current, and is subject to change without notice. Please contact your agent or carrier for your specific coverage implications and, if you need legal advice, please contact an attorney directly.

21 Responses to "How Your Relationship Status Can Affect Your Insurance"

  • Cheryl E Roy | February 19, 2019 at 8:51 pm (Edit)
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  • Extra Mile Staff | February 19, 2019 at 8:23 pm

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  • Beverly Barnett | February 19, 2019 at 7:57 pm

    As a single 96 yr old widow who has never had an accident,and is living with a wid- ower,who does not drive; Am wondering if I might posslbly be a candidate for a de- deduction for my 3 yr Nisson,which will be up in May,2019 .So far, I have driven 4000 miles during this period.Realizing that it is late in my contract,if I may still be a candidate for a deduction on my policy with Hartford,for the remaining months?

  • Doris oswald | February 19, 2019 at 7:18 pm (Edit)
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  • Extra Mile Staff | February 19, 2019 at 6:05 pm

    Hello Mrs. T- We are currently adding to this article with a “widow” section. In the meantime, you may want to look at Widows Guide To Buying, Selling, and Maintaining a Car

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 19, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    We appreciate your feedback, Dave!

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 19, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    Hi Peggy- Please call our customer service department at 1-877-896-9320 and one of our representatives can gladly go over your policy with you if you were to add your caregiver as a driver and quote a newer van.

  • Dave Wilson | February 19, 2019 at 1:39 am

    Good information, consise and to the point. I learned something today, keep up the good work.

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  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 8:24 pm

    Great feedback, Connie. We have adjusted the section with more information of living without roommates. Check it out!

  • Peggy Bergland | February 18, 2019 at 8:06 pm

    I am 96 years of age and no longer drive, but I have the sister of my daughter in law that takes care of me and drives my car. I put her,my son and daughter in law on my Hartford policy as they very occasionally need to drive my car for me. The care giver is the main driver and I find her a very cautious driver. I would be the driver but feel I do not want to drive any more although fully capable. I have no mental problems to affect my living, but I can no longer walk and prefer to have Sherry do the driving. How does this affect the cost of my policy. I am looking for a newer model van and may have to carry more than liability coverage. How does this affect the cost?

  • Connie | February 18, 2019 at 7:31 pm

    What about single living alone?

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 7:30 pm

    Thank you for your feedback!

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 7:30 pm

    Hi Charles, we are sorry for your loss. We will be adding a section soon on widowers.

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    Hi Susan. Excellent point. We are currently adding to this article with a "widow" section. In the meantime, check out The Hartford's Widows Guide To Buying, Selling, and Maintaining a Car.

  • Charles Wilkinson | February 18, 2019 at 7:23 pm

    I am a widower of 14 years. I live alone in a 675 sq. ft. apartment in a retirement facility. I have auto and renters insurance with The Hartford. Let me know if these conditions cause any adjustments.

  • Mrs T | February 18, 2019 at 7:13 pm

    Have to agree w/Ellen Wright - I am a widow as well so no information that would help except about umbrella policy - which did really address my situation, either.

  • M. Pag | February 18, 2019 at 6:57 pm

    Excellent article......We have been cohabitating for many years and initially just put our names as additional drivers on each respective auto policy, Several years ago, we combined all our insurance policies for continuity, coverage, and discounts. Most people don't seem to understand the legal implications regarding insurance for the cohabitating couple. Thank you for covering a very important topic.

  • Susan West | February 18, 2019 at 6:54 pm

    What if you are a widow?

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    Hi Ellen, we are sorry for your loss. Thank you for reading! Check back soon for an added section for widows.

  • Extra Mile Staff | February 18, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    Thank you Sonia! We appreciate your feedback.

  • ellen wright | February 16, 2019 at 6:09 pm

    As a widow living alone it did me no good

  • Sonia E. Wilson | February 16, 2019 at 3:07 pm

    Excellent article. Had I not worked for an attorney for over 10 years I would not have known the subject matter as you've described. Good work.

  • Reasons To Leave A Relationship | April 13, 2018 at 6:53 am

    You've got great insights about the Article, Thanks and keep up the good work!

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