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Family Heirloom Recipes: The Language of Love

Deb Hipp

Most of us associate memories of certain foods with love, especially when it comes to a mother, grandmother, or another maternal figure. In fact, favorite family recipes frequently live on, even after those we love are no longer with us to carry their trademark pie, soup, or hearty dish through the front door at holiday dinners.

Do you have fond memories of waking from childhood naps to aromas of garlic, Italian sausage, and tomatoes wafting from Mom’s lasagna baking in the oven? Maybe every time you bite into a BLT, the sandwich summons an image of your grandma frying bacon for her own crispy creation.

If so, you’ve got plenty of company in the crowded kitchen of favorite family recipes.

“I Wanted to Keep Her Legacy Alive”

Kaylin Staten spent many afternoons as a girl in her great-grandmother Wanda’s kitchen in Huntington, West Virginia, listening as the woman everyone in the family called “Granny” told stories about her life while preparing her famous vegetable soup.

daughter making soup with mother

During their time together, Granny chopped potatoes and shredded cabbage while describing her life during the Great Depression. Sometimes, Granny reminisced about how she struggled to raise four children alone after her husband died from cancer when she was 37 years old.

Kaylin loved watching Granny empty cans of peas, corn, and tomato juice into a big, aluminum pot, always stepping to the stove right on time to stir, mingling soup flavors and aromas with anecdotes from the past.

“She told me story after story, and often, those stories erupted into laughter,” says Kaylin. “She’d share family secrets as she opened the cans. I can still hear her voice as she let me in on tales of bygone days.”

Granny’s vegetable soup evolved over time, from ingredients picked from the family garden to canned goods and bags of produce from the grocery store. Their relationship also evolved as Kaylin grew up but remained close to her granny. After all, they’d shared a lot over that cutting board and all those pots of soup.

“She would call just to chat, especially when she made certain foods,” says Kaylin. “She knew I loved her soup, so she’d bring me some every time she made a batch.” In fact, Granny kept her so well-stocked on vegetable soup that Kaylin didn’t cook her first batch until two years after Wanda passed away in 2015 at the age of 88.

“The first time I made vegetable soup, I cried,” says Kaylin. “The smell of the soup reminded me so much of her.” After Granny passed away, Kaylin’s mother and grandmother gathered handwritten recipes from Granny’s kitchen, and Kaylin published a cookbook, “From Granny’s Kitchen,” a compilation of favorite family recipes.

“I wanted to keep her legacy alive through one of her favorite pastimes and ways to connect with her family,” says Kaylin. “I’m the fourth generation to use this vegetable soup recipe in my own kitchen, and I plan to teach my children how to prepare it, too.”

Granny’s Vegetable Soup


  • 1 64-ounce can of tomato juice
  • 3 medium potatoes, peeled and sliced
  • 3-4 carrots, peeled and sliced
  • 1 medium onion, peeled and sliced
  • 1 can of peas, undrained
  • 1 can of corn, undrained
  • 1 small head of cabbage, shredded (can use half or all)
  • 1 tablespoon sugar
  • 1 pound ground beef (optional)
  • salt and pepper to taste


Step 1

Place potatoes, carrots, onions, and cabbage in a large pot. Cover vegetables with water and place lid on the pot. Boil vegetables until tender.

Step 2

If using ground beef, cook in a separate pan at this time, then drain grease.

Step 3

After the vegetables are tender, drain approximately 1/2 of the water left in the pot. Add peas, corn, ground beef (if used), salt, pepper, tomato juice, and sugar to the vegetables.

Step 4

Bring soup to a boil. Cook and simmer for at least 1 hour.

Grandpa Kish’s Stuffed Cabbage Rolls

Lynell Ross of Auburn, California, is the official cook of the family now, but she learned the ways of the kitchen at a young age from her mother and grandmother. One of Lynell’s favorite family recipes for stuffed cabbage rolls came all the way from Hungary when her great grandfather, “Grandpa Kish,” immigrated to America in the mid-1800s.

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After Grandpa Kish’s wife died years later, he moved to Oklahoma to live with his son’s family, teaching his daughter-in-law, Claudia, to make stuffed cabbage rolls in their farmhouse kitchen. “Even though Grandpa Kish spoke little English, he taught my grandmother Claudia how to make stuffed cabbage rolls,” says Lynell. Later, Claudia taught the recipe to Lynell’s mother, Barbara.

“When my mom taught the recipe to me, she told me all about Grandpa Kish and how she was close to him, even though he didn’t speak much English,” says Lynell. “She told me that my grandparents and great-grandparents used cabbage in a lot of recipes because it was plentiful, inexpensive, and nutritious.”

Long ago, Lynell’s grandparents dug potatoes and gathered cabbage, onions, and tomatoes from the garden. Then they cooked the dish in a cast-iron Dutch oven atop a wood stove. However, just as times have changed over the years, so has the heirloom recipe — only a little bit, though.

Lynell still cooks Grandpa Kish’s cabbage roll dish in the same cast-iron pot used by her grandparents, implementing a couple of tweaks, one for convenience and the other for better heart health.

“It’s a basic recipe using whole foods, but I will use canned tomatoes,” says Lynell, a certified health and wellness coach and author of Health Coach Wisdom: You Have the Power to Be Healthy, a heart-healthy guide to nutritious meals. “I also make them with ground turkey instead of ground beef because turkey is leaner and more heart-healthy. Sometimes, I buy super-lean, grass-fed ground beef.”

No matter how Lynell prepares the tasty dish, Grandpa Kish’s memory is always near, as is the essence of Lynell’s mother, who died from heart disease at 62 years old. As a tribute to both, Lynell printed heart-healthy versions of many of her family’s favorite recipes 15 years ago and distributed copies to family members.

“When I’m making stuffed cabbage rolls, it really does connect me to Grandpa Kish,” says Lynell, who makes the dish often as keeper of the family recipe. “I always think about him while I cook that dish.”

Stuffed Cabbage Rolls

Stuffed Cabbage Rolls


  • 1 head of cabbage
  • 1 pound ground beef
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 1/2 cup raw rice
  • 1 teaspoon salt, pinch of black pepper
  • 2 tablespoons butter
  • 2 tablespoons brown sugar
  • 2 teaspoons vinegar
  • 1 cup milk
  • 4 tomatoes or 1 large can diced tomatoes


Step 1

Boil water in a large kettle. Cut cabbage leaves to make individual leaves and cook leaves in boiling water just until tender enough to be able to bend them (3-5 minutes). Drain cabbage leaves and lay on a tray to dry until stuffing is made. Combine ground beef, salt, pepper, egg, rice, milk, and onion in a bowl.

Step 2

Place 2 Tbsp. of the meat mixture into the center of each cabbage leaf and roll up until the mixture is enveloped. Melt butter in the bottom of the Dutch oven, placing the stuffed cabbage in rows on the butter, then adding a second or third layer. Cover with 1/2 cup of water and chopped tomatoes. Sprinkle with sugar, additional salt and pepper if desired.

Step 3

Cover tightly with lid and simmer for 1 1/2 hours. Check cabbage rolls often to make sure liquid hasn’t burned off. Baste and add more water or tomato sauce if needed (if there isn’t enough liquid, the rice won’t get done). When done, take the cabbage rolls out with a slotted spoon and place on a platter. Add vinegar to remaining juice, stir, and baste the gravy over stuffed cabbage rolls.

When the table is set for family tradition, it doesn’t really matter whether your favorite recipe is for Mom’s lemon pie, Grandma’s fried chicken, or Dad’s tangy barbecue sauce. Every dish tastes better when the main ingredient is love.

23 Responses to "Family Heirloom Recipes: The Language of Love"
    • Joan winter | May 15, 2020 at 7:10 pm

      What fun making making Grannie’s veg. was delicious…I had to use Clamato juice and we threw in left over shredded chicken….it did not disappoint!

      • Extra Mile Staff | August 14, 2020 at 4:04 pm

        We’re so glad you enjoyed it! You may also want to check out some new vegetarian recipes that we’ve just added. Let us know what you think!

    • Deb Hipp | May 12, 2020 at 2:16 am

      Fran, I’m so happy you may have stumbled onto a relative through Grandpa Kish’s recipe. I’ve forwarded your e-mail to Lynell, so she can contact you if she wishes.

    • Casey | May 11, 2020 at 5:45 pm

      Soon as I saw the name Kish you got my attention. My family is Hungarian. Love stuffed cabbage. You can use this recipe with bell peppers too.

    • Karla Gangone | May 10, 2020 at 12:46 pm

      I sure will try these. Thank you

    • Mary Ryan | May 10, 2020 at 1:29 am

      Seriously, our planet is dying. Plant-based recipes are needed. It’s bad enough we are still married to our cars and, thus, need insurance from you. Please show you are independent from all oil royalty.

    • Dave Wagner | May 10, 2020 at 12:50 am

      would like to ask how many cabbage rolls Grandpa Kish’s recipe makes. Would like to give this a whirl but just wondering how many rolls to expect.

    • Nancy Moshier | May 9, 2020 at 7:08 pm

      I downloaded both recipes, & I’m going to make them both. YUM!

    • JOANN M. POCHINSKI | May 9, 2020 at 6:05 pm

      Love these Grannies RECIPES. I come from the old school. Please, keep sending me more of Grannies recipes. I hope to see more of these wonderful recipes. The old ones are in my opinion more healthy than the new one today. Love Soups, Chilies and Pot Roast as well as Meat Loaf recipes. from the old days.

      Thank you so much.

      JoAnn Pochinski.

    • Joan Harris | May 9, 2020 at 5:13 pm

      To soften cabbage leaves, I freeze and then thaw the whole cabbage.

      I precook brown rice with chopped bell pepper and onion in chicken broth, mix with ground turkey and seasonings, then fill the cabbage leaves. I stack them alternating with canned tomato sauce and canned sauerkraut in a crockpot.

    • Anne L Lawrence | May 9, 2020 at 3:57 pm

      The recipe you have for cabbage rolls is the Polish recipe. The Ukranian recipe I have is to cook the onion until the onion is softened and then add the ground beef. Cook the mixture until the meat loses its color (not fully cooked) I then add cooked rice to the mixture and salt and pepper to taste. . Also, I add some tomato sauce to the mixture so it binds the meat and rice. I layer the bottom of a 9 x 12 pan with tomato sauce mixed with brown sugar, salt and pepper and also cover the rolls with the sauce. I bake in the oven at 350 degrees until the rolls are tender, usually about 1 to 1 and one half hours.

    • Brenda Britt | May 9, 2020 at 3:24 pm

      Soup sounds good.

    • Jhill Perran | May 8, 2020 at 8:03 pm

      For those who don’t want to use ground beef in these recipes, Try Gardein Protein Scramblers. It looks similar to ground beef & you cannot tell the difference when you use in your recipes. I use them in chili, spaghetti sauce, in lasagna, etc. I will use them in the stuffed cabbage recipe. Looks YUMMY & will also definitely try the vegetable soup. Thanks for sharing the recipes. Blessings all~

      • Extra Mile Staff | May 8, 2020 at 8:22 pm

        Hello, Jhill. Thanks for recommending a substitute for the beef! I hope you enjoy the recipes.

    • Fran Moore | May 8, 2020 at 5:13 pm

      I was so shocked to see my Great Grandma’s name (Kish) in the article about the cabbage rolls. I never knew my Great Grandpa Kish nor anything about his side of the family. But by the description of his immigration from Hungary, this very likely is that side of the family. Is there any way you can give my contact information to the Lynell Ross who is providing this recipe so that we can compare notes? I’m so amazed right now…as this was such a random encounter! I had to contact my brother and cousins and my aunt, who would have been Grandpa Kish’s granddaughter. She is still living here in the St. Louis area and is in her 80’s. Unfortunately, my dad (who would have been a grandson) passed away in October, 2019. He would have been excited about this discovery, too.

    • Shirley A Prins | May 8, 2020 at 4:24 pm

      The recipes sound good except for the ground beef. especially with all the notoriety of slaughterhouse workers and the Coronavirus. People should wake up and realize that so much energy, land and resources go to feeding and caring for animals just for our tongues sense enjoyment, that is one of the reasons Mother Nature is sending these plaques. Get ecological and healthier. GO VEGETARIAN. Shirley

      • Extra Mile Staff | May 8, 2020 at 5:09 pm

        Thank you for the feedback. We look forward to providing you vegetarian options in the near future.

      • Extra Mile Staff | August 14, 2020 at 4:00 pm

        Thanks for the suggestion. We’ve just published three great vegetarian recipes that you might enjoy!

    • Edwina Lewis | May 8, 2020 at 3:25 pm

      I am headed to the kitchen now. Soup sounds like a good idea.

      • Extra Mile Staff | May 8, 2020 at 5:05 pm

        Enjoy your soup, Edwina!

    • P O Hugues | May 8, 2020 at 3:20 pm

      Good idea.
      the recipes sound good but all contain meat. There are a lot of vegetarians out there who would like meatless recipes. Yes, I know I can leave out the meat but the recipe changes.

      • Extra Mile Staff | August 14, 2020 at 3:59 pm

        Thanks for the great suggestion! We’ve just published an article with three great vegetarian recipes that you might enjoy.

    • J. Steve Taylor | May 7, 2020 at 8:13 pm

      Makes me hungry

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